Wrong. Words cut people extremely deep when they are said face-to-face and they cut even deeper when being blasted via social media sites. In our parents generation bullies still existed. They would approach you on the playground or in a classroom or on your walk home from school – but as soon as you walked into your parents house and closed the door behind you – it stopped until the next day. You felt secure because they couldn’t reach out to you for that moment and you could peacefully enjoy a dinner conversation without being bothered. Bullying is constant and never ending in todays world. With cell phones being used as our right hand man and everyone owning at least a computer, an iPad, or an iPhone and sometimes even three, people face a new form of bullying. A lot of cyber bullying people face is even harder than facing a bully directly because they hide behind computer and cell phone screens which makes it a lot easier to say such hurtful words. Not only is it more hurtful, but it happens constantly – 7 days a week and 24 hours a day. Facebook has become a primary source for people to express opinions, even the ones that aren’t so nice. The problem is that no one really realizes the repercussions of blasting something to thousands of people in seconds.
Unfortunately these things don’t really hit home for a lot of people because many people are desensitized from these situations if they themselves have never experienced it. But with new technology, almost everyone has experienced something in the form of bullying even if one’s specific name was never mentioned but something was directed at them. This situation really hit home for me last week.
My twenty two year old cousin was a beautiful, talented, creative, and intelligent woman who had an entire future ahead of her. From the outside, you wouldn’t know that she was hurting inside as she was always dressed to the T and put together to perfection. For years of her life she was tormented by bullies but no one ever knew. In middle school she dealt with the bullies that would harass you in school, then on to high school when everyone got cell phones and the bullying via text messaging became prominent, then on to college where Facebook basically took over our generation. The “on the playground” bullying eventually turned into cyber bullying through the use of words. On February 6th 2013, which was her 22nd birthday, she took her own life because of the words blasted via the internet. I’m sure the girls who wrote this will always think twice before posting or saying something hurtful to someone or about someone but it is extremely unfortunate that it takes people to kill themselves for other people to realize how badly their words can affect someones life. Words can actually really hurt, and because of social media they dig really deep because everyone can know someones business in a matter of seconds which can cause feelings of insecurity and embarrassment for whomever the victim is.
Although social media can be used in many positive ways such as increasing profit for businesses and getting in touch with people we haven’t been in touch with for years, there are also many negatives to all of the new media outlets that have been taking over society because of the way they are misused on a daily basis. I strongly believe that the misuse of social media sites and the need for constant connection to the world through phones and computers could very well be the demise of society. Although my cousins story is heartbreaking and has touched many people who didn’t even know her, let it be a lesson for many people in our generation and for the generations to come that words do indeed hurt and one person may never understand just how fragile and sensitive another person is.