Words Can Never Hurt You… Right?

Wrong. Words cut people extremely deep when they are said face-to-face and they cut even deeper when being blasted via social media sites. In our parents generation bullies still existed. They would approach you on the playground or in a classroom or on your walk home from school – but as soon as you walked into your parents house and closed the door behind you – it stopped until the next day. You felt secure because they couldn’t reach out to you for that moment and you could peacefully enjoy a dinner conversation without being bothered. Bullying is constant and never ending in todays world. With cell phones being used as our right hand man and everyone owning at least a computer, an iPad, or an iPhone and sometimes even three, people face a new form of bullying. A lot of cyber bullying people face is even harder than facing a bully directly because they hide behind computer and cell phone screens which makes it a lot easier to say such hurtful words. Not only is it more hurtful, but it happens constantly – 7 days a week and 24 hours a day. Facebook has become a primary source for people to express opinions, even the ones that aren’t so nice. The problem is that no one really realizes the repercussions of blasting something to thousands of people in seconds.

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Unfortunately these things don’t really hit home for a lot of people because many people are desensitized from these situations if they themselves have never experienced it. But with new technology, almost everyone has experienced something in the form of bullying even if one’s specific name was never mentioned but something was directed at them.  This situation really hit home for me last week.

My twenty two year old cousin was a beautiful, talented, creative, and intelligent woman who had an entire future ahead of her. From the outside, you wouldn’t know that she was hurting inside as she was always dressed to the T and put together to perfection. For years of her life she was tormented by bullies but no one ever knew.  In middle school she dealt with the bullies that would harass you in school, then on to high school when everyone got cell phones and the bullying via text messaging became prominent, then on to college where Facebook basically took over our generation. The “on the playground” bullying eventually turned into cyber bullying through the use of words. On February 6th 2013, which was her 22nd birthday, she took her own life because of the words blasted via the internet.  I’m sure the girls who wrote this will always think twice before posting or saying something hurtful to someone or about someone but it is extremely unfortunate that it takes people to kill themselves for other people to realize how badly their words can affect someones life. Words can actually really hurt, and because of social media they dig really deep because everyone can know someones business in a matter of seconds which can cause feelings of insecurity and embarrassment for whomever the victim is.

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Although social media can be used in many positive ways such as increasing profit for businesses and getting in touch with people we haven’t been in touch with for years, there are also many negatives to all of the new media outlets that have been taking over society because of the way they are misused on a daily basis.  I strongly believe that the misuse of social media sites and the need for constant connection to the world through phones and computers could very well be the demise of society.  Although my cousins story is heartbreaking and has touched many people who didn’t even know her, let it be a lesson for many people in our generation and for the generations to come that words do indeed hurt and one person may never understand just how fragile and sensitive another person is.

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4 thoughts on “Words Can Never Hurt You… Right?

  1. first off, I’m truly sorry for your loss. It is too surreal that our generation is coming to this, hurting each other cowardly behind screens where no one can catch us. the victim at the other side of the screen usually keeps it a secret, nobody knows of their suffering. in a society where technology advances exponentially, laws do not follow up as fast; scams, cyberbullying, nonconsensual pornography are all some ugly aspects of the web, that seem to be getting more and more out of hand every day. the thing is what regulations can be placed in order to stop them? getting away with these is too easy, their frequency is ever increasing, as are the victims. it’s hard to think of society without the web, but will it ever get as bad as to ban it to stop the violence? hopefully it will never reach that point, but if we were to have to choose between the Internet and the well being of society, which one would we choose? I think we know the answer.

  2. First and foremost, I am terribly sorry for your loss. My prayers go out to you and your family. This must have been very hard on you and them. I hope there would be a way for individuals who are dealing with cyber bullying or who are affected by it in such a way would have an outlet to seek help. I wished they had certain groups or awareness programs in school from a young age about this kind of bullying. The bullying started with your cousin when she was in middle school, but thankfully back then as you said it was just bullying in school. However, today kids have to deal with bullying and cyber bullying so how do they escape that ? They need the caregivers, teaches, or anyone in the community, not just in school to give them ways to become free and have less bullying. I liked the picture of the directions of how to stop the bullies online. Something like that but more elaborate and informative would be of great help. Thank you for posting this. It was personal and sincere. It opened our eyes that it was just not young children that are affected by cyber bullying, but young adults who are ambitious and successful also. May she rest in peace.

  3. Truly touched by this post. My heart goes out to your family as I will keep you all in my prayers and additionally pray that events like this will come to a halt . Cyber bulling is only on the rise ever since social media sites have taken over our generation. Bringing awareness to such horrific acts, unfortunately, is the only way people are going to learn. It’s sad that it takes a life for a lesson to be learned and that really says something about our society as well as the direction we are headed. I know this is a tough time for your family, but I appreciate you posting this as I hope many will read and learn from others mistakes. May your cousin rest in peace and find joy in heavens beautiful surroundings.

  4. I’m terribly sorry!!! I know it is very difficult experience. But the point is choosing your friends wisely. Second, the social media people do that out of their own choice and people who avoid it, tend to be much happier. We have a purpose in Life, and things like this distract us from our purpose. We can see that Almighty God has created us with an intellect and a free-will which distinguishes us from Animals. The media is out there as a source of distraction, though it has its pros it too has its cons. We need to reflect on the Creator and than be able to recognize him. Thereafter, dedicating our lives to his obedience not people judging the way we run our lives.

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